Self-advancement, even of the highest spiritual level, cannot and will not come when our obligations are in any way neglected.
[A strong warning to a relative who had made plans to be away at a time when her presence at home was much needed.]
There are times, my child, that we cannot see the brook for the stones that are there, but it is still there, still running and going on to its ultimate destiny, the river and thence to the sea. I use this simile for a reason which we hope you will see and profit by.
You know, there is none so blind as one who cannot see the things about her that she has and should cherish above all. It is a life work and until this is accomplished, one is not truly free to go about seeking for self-advancement no matter how high the motive may be.
The first and the foremost duty of everyone who has children to bring up to adulthood is to guide and to care for them and to be a continuous example for them to emulate. No one else can do this for us -- we are obligated by the laws of love to carry this through no matter how heavy the burden.
There are times, yes, when we can, as you might say, take a breather and get away for a short time and thereby return with a different perspective. But to seek out a goal of greater self-advancement when the obligations of home are not yet met we cannot condone for everything must have a time and the time for that cannot be hurried.
Self-advancement, even of the highest spiritual level, cannot and will not come when our obligations are in any way neglected. In truth, it is a selfishness that is being appeased and nothing more, and true spiritual upliftment cannot come. We are only self-hypnotized by our strong desires.
We cannot emphasize this strongly enough. If you persist in carrying through this plan, we see it will further the chasm between you and your daughter and may cause a rift between you and your husband. It is not the time!! It is not the way.
Take a vacation, yes, that is sometimes, in itself, an upliftment and a way to be appreciated, but not an expensive course (and the cost will be greater than you will care to pay) that, no matter how noble and selfless it may sound to you, is not what is represented.
Think and then act on your own best judgment. We know you are a highly sensitive and emotional personality and one who is greatly affected by the spiritual. You are gaining, and remember -- everything good comes slowly. You have within your grasp that which you seek, but only in following your true duty. Any other path will lead only to disaster.
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